Why is someone else’s journey always easier than our own?

Isn’t it amazing how we can look around at others and see how easy they have it?  Make assumptions, judgements and declarations without any true knowledge of what their story truly is?  Many times a week I have people contact me because they are beginning their weight loss journey or are struggling with losing their weight and they want to know what I have done, what’s been successful, and what the secret is to my success.  I LOVE helping others and feel it is my responsibility because when I started this journey I promised God that if he would help me lose the weight then I would use my testimony to help others.

As many of you already know I was overweight most of my life.  I struggled with weight on and off most of my adult life.  I have been ignored, looked over, talked about, snickered at, and experienced discrimination from being obese.  I know many people think that obesity is a choice.  You wake up eat anything you want, as much as you want, and can’t control yourself.  Pretty simple. Unfortunately, that usually isn’t the case.  For many of us that are overweight it happened one day at a time; one stress, one heartbreak, one loss, one disappointment at a time.  Mine started when my parents divorced and I learned to comfort myself with food.  However, at four and a half years old I had no clue that’s what I was doing.  Funny thing is I didn’t realize that’s what I was doing until I was 50!  I saw a picture (something I avoided like the plague) of myself and couldn’t believe how heavy I was!! Yes I have a mirror but saw what I wanted to see in the mirror. Before with Brianna as Homecoming Princess

When I began this journey I believed getting the weight off was the answer to all my problems! I thought once I was thin I would look great, have confidence, my husband would be so happy, my children would be so proud of me and I would be on top of the world! All my problems would be solved. Oh boy was I wrong! (laughing)  I had a counselor tell me that before it was over I would feel like I had been through a war and I remember thinking I don’t know what he’s talking about.  It’s going to be amazing.

Then I released the weight. 134 pounds to be exact.  Those around me had been used to the overweight, food induced coma I was living in and were comfortable with that scenario.  So when I came alive and looked like the person I felt like on the inside, I started living! Truly living with purpose and conviction and energy and power.  Many of the people around me couldn’t handle the real me and they resisted.  Some of them got angry because they couldn’t treat me the way they had in the past because I set boundaries, I said no, I had my voice back.  I don’t mean I was being unreasonable or that they were being mean; just that it was different and uncomfortable for them.  I had been a people pleaser (still working on this) and always put everyone else before myself; which isn’t healthy for anyone!! NOW I KNOW what the counselor was talking about when he said I would feel like I had been through a war before it was over!

As I mentioned in the beginning I work with people everyday who want to know my secret.  They say things like it’s wonderful that you have been able to do it but I don’t know if I can. You’re so much stronger than I am. You have so much willpower.  I don’t like a lot of foods.  I’ve always been heavy I just don’t know if I can do it.  My ______ just died.  I have a lot of health issues.  I’m having marriage issues.  I have a lot of stress with my job.  You get the picture!  I have helped many people including myself release a lot of weight.  I have helped people who have been abused; mentally, physically,  and sexually.  I have helped elderly people, men, women, children, people who have stress from family issues, jobs, health issues, financial issues, you name it!  We all, every single one of us who carry extra weight, have issues we are dealing with on a regular basis.  The only difference between me and someone who is starting and scared is the belief that you CAN do it.  In the beginning, I couldn’t imagine releasing 134 pounds so I broke it down in to smaller, manageable goals and made one choice at a time and listened to my coach and did what she said because I didn’t know what to do.  Here’s a link to my previous blog post on where to begin: http://nenaholt.blogspot.com/2014/07/six-steps-to-successful-weight-loss.html

nothing worth having comes easy

What I want you to know is that it wasn’t easier for me than it is for you.  I didn’t have any magic wand or bewitch’s power nose to twitch; I also didn’t have a coach who had released 100 + pounds so much of it I had to figure out on my own.  It starts by a decision that you are going to quit putting yourself last.  You are going to make the choice one day and quite frankly, one minute at a time some days, to be the best you can be.  You have to work on your mindset and YOU most of all. I will not tell you it is easy because it isn’t but I do PROMISE you it is worth it.  Being healthy, having energy, being able to sleep well, and love living life is THEEEEE BEST feeling and there is no way to put into words how amazing it is.

So the next time you look at someone else and think…Wow! I wish I could do that; I want you to know two things: First, YOU CAN DO IT and second it may look easy but I guarantee behind each one of us is a backstory that you probably wouldn’t imagine by just looking on the outside.  The choice is yours!!

The 3 C's Choices, chances, change

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