Each day I try to focus on what I have to be grateful for and the blessings in my life. I know some days this is easier than others because let’s face it, life happens and things sometimes seem overwhelming. I can always find 10 things relatively quickly to be grateful for but when I speak to others about doing this I frequently get resistance. Huh! If I had something to be grateful for I’d be happy. If I didn’t have to go to work everyday I’d be happy. If I was healthy I’d be happy. If my kids; spouse; _________(you fill in the blank) then I could be happy. If I didn’t have to stress or worry about money then I’d be happy. And it goes on and on. Yet in every one of those scenarios the person has a plethora of things to be grateful for. A roof over their head, food to eat, a job to go to, a spouse, children, air to breathe, they’re alive; hope! Truth is we all have so much to be grateful for yet we choose not to see it. We are so focused on what is wrong with us; with our family, friends, co workers, community, country, etc. that we get caught up in the negative and don’t stop to focus on the positive.
I use to be the most negative person (not authentically on the inside but by living with that mindset most of my life I just looked for it automatically). I would look for reason to doubt, for the crack in the logic, someone to mess up (you know it’s always going to happen; we are all human after all and no one is perfect), the disappointment, etc. What I found was more to doubt, people who mess up, disappointment, judgement, etc. Galatians 6:7 states it clearly: Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.
So what you look for you find! The good news is you can train your mind to look for the good in every situation. No, not every situation is good but there is something to be grateful for in every situation! You are learning, growing, experiencing change in every failure, defeat, heartbreak, and encounter in your life. Like a diamond that has to be heated, cut, and polished to make the beautiful stone you need to be experience many failures, heartbreaks, events in your life to learn and grow. My grandparents death was without a doubt THE worst thing that has ever happened to me but even in that tragic event I am grateful for all the love, memories, unconditional love and support they gave me. I am grateful that neither of them lived longer than they could take care of themselves because that was their prayer as long as I can remember. I am grateful for the foundation they gave me to be a productive, contributing citizen in this world. You CAN find the good in every situation. You just have to look from that mindset. Asking yourself what positive could possibly come from this. Why am I in this place at this time. I remember just a little over a month ago driving to the college one morning and in the blink of an eye watching as an automobile was hit and went flying into another lane of traffic colliding with another vehicle during morning rush hour traffic and thinking to myself, Praise God that I was not in that lane this morning because that was the lane I was frequently in but because the traffic was so bad I had to move to a further lane that day. What if the traffic had been lighter? It might have been me. Or when you’re running late and you’re frustrated and upset about the situation…ask yourself; what might I be avoiding by running late? I have heard people say they were late getting to work or their plane on 9/11 and they avoided being killed, either on the ground or in the airplanes, that are grateful they were late that particular morning.
I would like to invite you to take a 30 day challenge that I KNOW will impact your life because it did mine. Every morning get up and ask yourself “How can I be a blessing to someone else today?” Look for someone you can be of service to. Whether it’s a woman with a child that could use help with a door being opened, a senior who may need assistance, someone in line that is in a hurry and may need to go first, your neighbor who hasn’t had time to cut their lawn, someone in a nursing home that would love to talk, a veteran who could use a ride to the doctor or a word of appreciation for their service, maybe drive to the area of your city where the homeless are and take a bag with toiletries such as a toothbrush, toothpaste, baby wipes, comb, toilet paper, etc. and a sandwich or snacks. Take the extra “stuff” you don’t know what to do with to the homeless or battered woman’s shelter. Do you know a single parent? Offer to watch their child or children for a couple of hours so they can run errands, clean house, or take a bath! They need a break which is great for them and their children. Why you ask would you want to do this? Glad you asked! The more you do for others the better you feel, the more your heart opens up, and the more grateful you become. The more grateful you are with what you have the more you will be given to be grateful for. The more we focus on the “I” the smaller and more confining our world feels. The more negative we view life. The more we focus on others and being a contribution the more grateful we are and the more we are given to be grateful for.
So just for today ask yourself How can I be a blessing in someone’s life? Then look for ways to be a blessing in the lives of others. It can be your spouse, child, friend, or stranger’s life. At the end of the day reflect back and write at least 5 things you are grateful for. Do this each morning for 30 days and increase what you’re grateful for to 10 things each day over the 30 day time period. I have established a facebook page where we can post our experiences, our daily gratitude list if you like, support each other along the way and start a massive movement of people who would like to make a difference in the lives of others and in the process transform your own life. PLEASE join me! https://www.facebook.com/howcanIbeablessinginyourlifetoday/?skip_nax_wizard=true I am praying for each of you to be a blessing in at least one person’s life today. I am declaring that it is possible for us to make a difference in our own lives by making a difference in another person’s life today!